Holistic counselling and therapy can support you to explore your values, passions & gifts and connect with an authentic purpose that springs from your unique heart, body, mind and spirit. The world is longing for you to share yourself with her.
When you connect with your purpose, life naturally becomes more easeful and joyous because you are no longer living in conflict or disharmony with your inner life and those aspects of yourself that have been longing for a place at the table. Many of us go through our early adulthood unconsciously living out the purpose of another – this takes a different shape for each of us – it might look like choosing a career or work pathway that we feel will bring us status and approval from our family, peers or wider community. It might be feeling we need to become a parent by a certain age or, on the other hand, dedicate ourselves to our career at the expense of other aspects of our life. It might also take the all too familiar form of not following our instincts and longings towards a creative or adventure-seeking life or career in favour of a safer or more ‘sensible’ journey. But is it really sensible to deny our true purpose?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon? Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? – Mary Oliver
Very often we make these ‘choices’ unaware that we are doing so, at least in part, driven by the unconscious expectations of our families and cultures that we absorb through osmosis. These ‘choices’ in life are often so influenced by our unconscious narratives and cultural conditioning about ‘who we should be’ and what we should do with our life that in fact we do feel as though we really want to be a lawyer or a model or a certain type of parent, a hairdresser or a business person, and we may initially be very motivated and driven to achieve in those areas, especially when those achievements bring us status, respect and admiration from our peers, family, community and our inner judge. But when we’ve chosen a path that isn’t our own, sooner or later, the cracks begin to appear.
When it all catches up with us
As we approach mid-life, (but increasingly even earlier in life), the things that once brought us a sense of fulfilment, pride and self-worth might start to lose their lustre. You may feel a nagging sense of something being missing, or just ‘not right’. We may feel we’re simply going through the motions of our lives in a way that no longer feels authentic or satisfying and we might experience symptoms such as depression or anxiety, physical pain, fatigue or other chronic health problems. We may even have a kind of disembodied feeling that we’re watching ourselves live a life that is not ours, not really us.
We may even have a kind of disembodied feeling that we’re watching ourselves live a life that is not ours, not really us.
Heeding the call
These feelings and sensations that we often can’t quite put into words, are the calls of our inner animal, our authentic self, as she/he becomes more and more unable to live in exile – unacknowledged, neglected or contradicted. Perhaps our relationship with the partner we always saw ourselves being with begins to feel a little shallow or disconnected. The material things we’ve worked hard to attain may no longer seem to do the job of making us feel happy and fulfilled. Our chosen career or path might become something we carry out joylessly out of obligation or just because it’s what we’ve always done, something we come to resent or even dread – a part of us feels empty or hungry for something else, something more meaningful. These feelings can be overwhelming, difficult and even deeply unwelcome.
We might experience this call of the wild as a kind of grief or dread, or with extreme resistance from that part of ourselves that wants to maintain the status quo at all costs…
Coming home to connect with your purpose
We might experience this call of the wild as a kind of grief or dread, or with extreme resistance from that part of ourselves that wants to maintain the status quo at all costs, the part that’s afraid of what change might bring. We are only human after all and the possibility of change and disruption is something to be approached with a great deal of self-compassion and care – transformation is always risky, we must shed our skin and those aspects of our lives that no longer serve us – this is not a comfortable or easy transition by any means – but the price of living a life in exile from our authenticity and deepest self is just too great.
Although we might not yet have a sense of just what it is that our self is asking of us, following the calls of that inner wild one like breadcrumbs in the forest is the way home to authenticity and the promise of the heart purpose and meaning that has been waiting for you there all along.
Are you ready to listen to the callings of your one wild heart and allow her to guide you home? Is it time to connect to your purpose?